I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and most of the time we do not understand or know the reasons. I also believe that if you want something out of life you have to take chances and make it happen. You can not just sit back and wait for your life to pick you up off your recliner and spell out the directions to drive your vehicle into a brand new way. You are the driver.
And of course, I am not naive. I am aware not everything works out, and it isn't always realistic to take risks, especially when you have 3 small people looking to you for all the answers and food and clothing. But you can still plan for a change. Get out of yourself and change your life. For the better of the people in it.